Grief Inoculation: It doesn’t work: 4 Things to do Instead
No, all the anticipatory and preliminary grieving you do now, will not make the journey and feelings of loss when the time comes any less painful. There is no bypassing the grieving process…no matter how hard you try. I coach clients during their grieving and through these conversations and personal experiences it has been my […]
Look to the Feline! The “Curious Cat” Technique for Emotional Self-Regulation.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom” -Viktor E. Frankl Hands up if you have ever experienced a time when, after some reflection, you just did not feel right about how you handled a […]
Are you coping your life away?
Meet your Coach: Moments of Intimacy from the Heart of a Life Coach
When people ask me what I do for work and I say a “Life Coach”, I often get this assumption that I have found some perfect way of living. Of Being. Whatever that means to them. Well, this is not the case for me (I do not want to speak on behalf of other Life […]
Give yourself a Gift: A Breath of Fresh Air and a Self-Soothing Thought
Ok.So this is where things are at. You are aware that you are not where you want to be in your life. Or maybe not who you want to be. Maybe you have accepted it. And maybe you are doing something about it. Maybe not. Maybe things are not OK. Okay. But right NOW, […]
Grief and Loss: How to Support someone in Grief AND take care of YOU at the same time
Grief and Loss: How to Support someone in Grief AND take care of YOU at the same time “How do I support a loved one who has lost someone?” “What do I say?” “What do I do?” “What if I feel its too much for me?” Have you had someone you know experience a loss and then […]
Purposeful Kindness: 11 Acts of Kindness to Help Nurture and Cultivate Positive Emotions and Well-Being.
When we hear about and witness acts of hatred, inequality and cruelty, you can also experience despair and hopelessness. You may feel there is nothing that you can do to ease the suffering of others or fix these problems and that there is no way forward. Then we might shut down and […]
“I should.. You should… They should…..Stop here!
Have “I should” Statements become a Habit? “I should be more….” “I should not have done….” “They should be more….” “You should have……” Stop “shoulding” all over yourself. And others. Is there some thing you feel you “should” have done or “should have not done”? Someone you feel you ‘’should” be? Somewhere you feel you […]
Of course, I am Aware of Myself! Right…?
Of course, I am Aware of Myself! Introductory skit: Client: So yeah, I got some feedback that I get angry with my coworkers when they send me work with spelling mistakes on it. Coach: What goes on for you when you hear that feedback? Client: Oh. It’s totally true. It pisses me right off. I just don’t get why they […]
“Oh I wish I didn’t react like that….” : A FREE way to Practice your Emotional Self-regulation Skills
Want to know how to practice your emotional self-regulation for FREE? No, it’s not a workshop or coaching session. A common area of personal development I have clients ask to work on in coaching is emotional self- regulation: The process of effectively managing and responding to an emotional experience. This is an essential EQ component […]